For whatever reason, I am "Joe fix it guy". Everyone seems to come to me with their problems and issues and most times through sheer luck, I am able to help, or resolve the issue. I am not sure why, but I have become the world's problem solver....and I guess that's a compliment.
But you know what really pisses me off sometimes? It never seems to come back my way....from SOME of them.
The people that I help the most...seem to be the ones that "forget" to include me and my family in events that we might like to attend. Or, they give things to people that they would never think of dropping off to me.
So, I am currently developing my own "assist others policy"...it is still in draft form. But it will go something like this.
Forget to include me and/or my family in an event?
You are off the help list, permanently. No reconsideration.
Forget to drop something off, or offer me some, when you have tons extra?
You are off the help list, for one year. That can be an oversight. An honest one, but an oversight, nonetheless.
We'll call it probation.
I enjoy helping people that truly are in need of assistance. There is some satisfaction in that. But, what I am sick of is the reliant, whiner types.
Assistance type 1)
Phone rings.."is Rodney there?"
" I need him to help me, I just burnt my toast and am not sure what to do"
Ummm...OK.
This is the same type of person that calls 3 times a week, with an "issue", or needing help.
Their "Issue" is in quotes..(my thoughts are in brackets)
"I can't find my keys"
(if you can't find them, how the hell am I supposed to?)
" I am out of butter"
(buy a cow..you'll never have that issue again)
"My neighbour keeps staring at my flower garden"
(flash him, he'll stop. Or look more..that one is a gamble)
"The batteries in my remote are dead"
(they don't sell them anymore in stores?????)
"I hate my job.."
(yes, I am also a Career Counsellor)
"do you know if traffic is heavy on Kingston road in Toronto?"
(hang on, i'll look out my window in Bowmanville, ya goof.)
"can you come over and move my inground pool 6 inches to the left? It is blocking my view of my new rose plants"
(oh hell ya...i am there. Like how big of a job can that be?)
So...OK ....and you would like me to do what about any of that? Pffhhtt...
These type of people are draining and to be avoided. Not disliked, but avoided. Thank you God, for call display.
Assistance type 2)
Best buddy Darren calls me from Oakville at 2AM and needs a ride home.
I am there, right away. Darren is the kind of guy that will get out of bed at 6AM and come help you, if you ask him to.
But here is the funny thing...
It kills Darren to ask for help. He always wants to solve his own issues himself. Darren invites you over for beer, etc. every single time you see him and gets mad if you bring beer to his house. Shouldn't we all be like that?
Now, I speak to the vox populi on this one folks. Here is my advice.
1)Ask for help, only when you really need it.
2) Repay help, in double.
3) Don't over use the people that help you. Because if you do, they will soon be subscribing to call display.
Let's all work to be "2's" people. Works for Darren.
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